A Century with Ethel Kennedy: Her Distinctively American Journey
By Kandie Stroud, Skytop Host and Contributor / October 21st, 2024
Kandie Stroud was voted a top female political strategist by Business Insider in 2021. Stroud has over 40 years of experience in strategic communications, political campaigns and journalism. She has worked in nine presidential campaigns and provided advice and communications strategy for gubernatorial, senate and congressional candidates, corporations and law firms. She was the first woman to serve as the chief diplomatic correspondent for CNN and has worked as a correspondent and/or commentator for Capital Cities Broadcasting, WRC-TV, WTOP-TV, ABC and Talk Radio News Service,
She was the Director of Broadcast Communications for the Democratic National Committee for a decade and has managed the radio bookings for six Democratic National Conventions. Stroud served as a senior advisor and communications director for John Delaney’s presidential campaign during the 2020 election cycle. She served as Director of Media Relations for the Credit Union National Association CUNA).
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She holds a bachelor’s degree in English from Boston College and is fluent in five languages.
Stroud served as board chairman of the Choral Arts Society of Washington and was a trustee for thirty years. She has performed with this symphonic chorus on concert stages around the world from South America to Russia, and from China to Europe.
How many funerals have you attended that featured three presidents, a presidential candidate, the former Speaker of the House, singers extraordinaire Stevie Wonder and Sting, the Governor of California, Senator John Kerry and the entire Kennedy family? The answer is probably zero.
And probably never again will that combination come together as it did yesterday in a star-studded congregation gathered to celebrate the formidable life of Ethel Kennedy in the majestic St. Matthew’s Cathedral in Washington where President John F Kennedy’s funeral mass was held.
The almost four hour event was rich with music, emotion and a hearty sprinkling of humor-- as Ethel, known for her quick wit, would have wanted it.
Each distinguished speaker began with the introduction: “Mr. President. Mr. President. Mr. President,” acknowledging the front row presence of former Chief Executives Bill Clinton and Barack Obama and President Joe Biden. Each POTUS separately extolled Robert F. Kennedy’s widow and mother of 11 as a model mom, devout Catholic, passionate activist and social justice warrior who, said Biden, “gave everything she had to make it a better world.” Biden, who received thunderous applause both as he took the podium and left it, gave a flawless eulogy, interrupted only by his own tears as he recounted Ethel Kennedy’s empathy and compassion when his wife and daughter were killed in a car accident shortly after he was elected as a Senator.
“She was there,” stated President Biden. Again, Ethel consoled him again when his son Beau died of cancer, reiterating “She was there”. he reiterated. On a lighter note, the President recalled one Valentine’s Day when he received a card featuring a picture of him with Ethel surrounded by a heart which was captioned: “I’m not Biden my time waiting for you.”
Biden said he had only two heroes - Robert F. Kennedy, whose bust he keeps in the Oval Office, and Martin Luther King (whose son spoke yesterday). President Obama remembered meeting Ethel Kennedy when he was first emerging on the political scene. “A little woman with bright blue eyes and a huge smile came up to me, held both my arms, looked me right in the eyes and said, ‘I like you! You’re going places!’” Speaker Emeritus Nancy Pelosi lauded Ethel as “a national treasure” and characterized her as a woman of “deep faith.”
Ethel’s eldest child, Kathleen Kennedy Townsend, contributed fun stories about her mother. “Most mothers bring their children to the park to swoosh down the slide and swing on the swing. My mom brought me and my brothers Bobby and Joe to the Senate Racket Committee Hearings on organized crime…Mummy wanted us to know what Daddy was doing.” RFK was chief counsel to the Senate Committee at the time and was cracking down on the mob. She also recounted how Ethel “thought stop signs were mere suggestions.”
President Clinton said Ethel had called him when he was leaving the White House at the end of his presidency when Hillary was Senator from New York. Ethel teased Clinton, “You’re now a senate spouse.” Daughter Kerry recalled phoning Ethel recently from Italy to ask her if there was “anything at all I can bring you?” Ethel quipped, “An Italian would do nicely.” Filmmaker Rory Kennedy, Ethel Kennedy’s eleventh and last child, called her mother, “my staunchest supporter” and “a woman who led a beautiful and impactful life.” During the troubles with apartheid in South Africa Rory recalled watching the arrests of protestors at the South African Embassy on TV. She informed her mother that she and her brother Doug wanted to go into DC to join the protesters and “get arrested for apartheid,” to which Ethel replied, “Great. I’ll drive.” Rory managed to get arrested and cuffed. As she was sitting in the squad car in front of the Embassy, Rory said Ethel was looking at her through the window with the biggest smile on her face.
A surprise for the packed assembly was singer Stevie Wonder, who performed, “Isn’t She Lovely,” as the audience clapped along. His rendition of The Lord’s Prayer left no dry eye in the house. Sting, the former songwriter and bassist for the band Police, sang “Fragile.” Country singer Kenny Chesney sang “You are My Sunshine”, and Nova Tate, a singer from St. Martin’s Choir, performed Ave Maria.
Ethel was remembered as a daily communicant, a devotee of the rosary, and a lover of guests who sometimes entertained 100 for lunch. (“Friends and friends of friends are welcome. Just not friends of friends of friends,” she instructed her children.)
She also collected animals. Ethel surrounded herself with dogs, cats, rabbits, horses, goats, turtles, hawks, an armadillo, and even a seal. “Not sure where they kept the seal,” said Obama. A winner of trophies, she was also an outstanding athlete who won sailing, riding and tennis tournaments, and an avid skier who sometimes got lost skiing off-piste.
Ethel was also an accomplished rider who loved horses--sometimes other peoples’ horses. Once as she and some of her children were riding in McLean, VA on old CIA trails she spotted a distressed, starving nag. Ethel dismounted and insisted they rescue the animal and take the emaciated horse home to feed it. The owner sued and the front pages of the newspapers screamed words to the effect “wife of Attorney General arrested as horse thief.”
Tears and laughter abounded as the amazing and beautiful service marks the end of a century long era through her distinctively American journey.
We’ll never see her likes again.